If You Think Life Ends After Marriage & Kids, You Need To Read This Woman’s Inspiring Story

If You Think Life Ends After Marriage & Kids, You Need To Read This Woman’s Inspiring Story

LIFESTYLE Unknown   12:53

We recently came across yet another uplifting story by Humans of  Bamba

It tells the story of a woman who rode her bike straight through the barrier of stereotypes! Moving forth on a journey of self-realisation and worth, this gangster lady has inspired thousands of young women with her story.

Her message is simple. Be who you want to be and do what you want to do.

Here is her great adventure in her own words:

"When I was 6 years old, I got breathless and was admitted to the hospital. I had a growth in my windpipe called Papillomas and as a result I had to depend on an oxygen tank until I was 18. After multiple surgeries I was able to breathe normally, but my voice was barely audible — until today I have to get a laser surgery every year, or else I lose my voice.

I am a homemaker. I have two sons and a loving husband, but I’ve always felt like I need to do more and be more. Many years ago we had only one car and my husband would take that car to work. Whether it was dropping my children for school or tuitions or running my errands, I would always have to go in an auto…so I decided to start saving money for a bike. Every month I would save a little, and after a year and a half I was able to purchase my own bike— and the second I drove it, I fell in love. More than anything it gave me the independence to move around freely — it may not sound like a lot to you but it was everything to me.

I joined a female motorcycle group, and saw that there was a group of women going to Goa on their bikes…I wondered if it would be appropriate for a homemaker to leave her kids and family and go out on a bike journey. When I told my family about this opportunity they were so supportive — intact they pushed me to go for it! My husband said he will make sure he’s at home more and my older son said that he would take care of his younger brother. I made their study time tables for them, organised their drops to school and tuition and took it — I went to Goa and back by bike with a group of women and it was the most liberating feeling of my life…and it had only just begun.

Last year, I even completed a ride to Himachal and Uttarakhand but the highlight of my life has been when I got chosen to go to Khardung La by TVS Scooty Zest. At first when I applied, I thought that from 50,000 applicants there was a slim chance, but I almost immediately got a call saying I was on board!

Last year, I even completed a ride to Himachal and Uttarakhand but the highlight of my life has been when I got chosen to go to Khardung La by TVS Scooty Zest. At first when I applied, I thought that from 50,000 applicants there was a slim chance, but I almost immediately got a call saying I was on board!

The journey was a beautiful one — of course there was a lot of difficult terrain but it was all worth it when we got to the top on August 21st. In fact, I turned 50 on that very day and the rest of my group organised a cake and sang for me on top of the peak. I remember the moment I reached the top— I started screaming! Never before had I felt so free, powerful and complete. When I got to the top, I felt that I had my own identity… that I wasn’t just someone’s mother, or wife— I was ME. I am a 50 year old homemaker who has a passion for bikes… and I just got to the top of one of the highest peaks in the country. Age? No barrier. Profession? No Barrier? Disability? No Barrier. Truth is, the only barrier is you and if you really want something, no power in this world can stop you from getting it."

Major Reasons You're unable to Achieving Your Goals In life

Major Reasons You're unable to Achieving Your Goals In life

News Unknown   21:44

Think about it: Without dedicating actual time to finishing the great American novel, it’s pretty impossible to move the needle and get anything done. A solid technique for finding the time? Pinpoint your golden hour and focus from there.

Golden Hour

In a perfect world, we’d be nonstop productive from morning ’til night. In reality, we’re  lucky to complete one task without being interrupted by a text, a kid, a coworker or a cat video.

That’s why we were intrigued by the concept of a “golden hour,” a magical 60 minutes when you’re totally focused and productive every day. It sounded too good to be true, but after finding our own, we’re sold. Here’s how to find yours: 

For one week, wake up at least an hour earlier than you normally would, and start checking things off your to-do list. For the duration of the week, observe the times you feel most rested and alert and when you feel tired and frazzled.

After seven days, a pattern should emerge, and the time you usually feel your best, friends, is your golden hour. Moving forward, try to remove all distractions during this time. If possible, don’t check your email or phone and focus on nothing but the task(s) at hand.

Oh, and in case you’re wondering, our golden hour is somewhere between 5 and 6 a.m. So yes, we’ve significantly increased our caffeine intake, but we’ve also never been more productive. An overall win in our book.

Major Habits That Destroy Trust in Human Relationship

Major Habits That Destroy Trust in Human Relationship

Thisday Unknown   05:36

Trust is built as people begin see the other person's side of the story, and give-and-take is necessary for a romantic relationship to work. 'This demonstrates a preference placed on his own needs rather than yours,' says Jane Greer, PhD, New York-based relationship expert, and author of How Could You Do This to Me? Learning to Trust After Betrayal. 'If that's the case, how can you trust him to be emotionally supportive when you need him?' For a relationship to be successful, you need to learn how to make the other person happy, too. 'Someone who never compromises is selfish and immature,' says April Masini, a New York-based relationship and etiquette expert and author. 'Anyone in a healthy relationship knows that 'you win some, you lose some' is not just a sing-song phrase; it's truth. If someone won't compromise, it means he cares more about having his way than giving in and being generous.' 

How Soyinka’s generation of intellectuals Achivement misled Africa

How Soyinka’s generation of intellectuals Achivement misled Africa

Thisday Unknown   04:35

 A report from an evening broadcast held that Wole Soyinka had vowed to cut up his Green Card if Donald Trump won the presidential election in America, I did not know what to think.

I suspect that Soyinka intended his declaration to be a symbolic act of revolutionary significance; an act which, though seemingly self-defeatist, would be a rallying cry for a political and intellectual fight back against right wing extremism, much like the self-immolation of the Tunisian street vendor served as a rallying cry for the Arab Spring.

But why, I asked myself, did I feel unsettled about Soyinka’s intended dramatic and emotive action? Why did I not feel encouraged or inspired by his declaration? Why did the declaration instead evoke a sense of impotence? Why did I feel that it was pitiable rather than defiant? Why was there a feeling similar to the one elicited by Lawino (main protagonist in Okot P’Bitek’s poem) when she offers archaic superstitious customs as proof of superiority of her culture?

Then it all dawned on me. Soyinka’s declaration really symbolised the futile end to which the nationalist ideological project had come. Began roughly after the Second World War, this project sought to “decolonise the mind” by validating the once denigrated African traditional worldview. Even more crucially, it sought to incorporate traditional beliefs and values in an overarching ideology of change that would guide an African political and cultural renaissance.

To this project, African intellectuals, including writers of the ‘Makerere’ generation, would commit themselves. That is why the central theme of most intellectual and artistic expression over the last 50 years is the attempt to validate the traditional worldview, and to define an ideology that would guide Africa’s future progress.

DELIBERATE INSTITUTIONALISATION

In works of fiction, this theme is promoted by juxtaposing assumed self-evident morality of the traditional society with moral decadence of Western culture. In Song of Lawino, for instance, the character of Ocol and his world are depicted as shallow, fake, ugly, self-loathing and immoral. By contrast, Lawino and her world are presented as authentic, beautiful and moral. The poem is implicit from which world, Ocol’s or Lawino’s, we should draw the cultural materials with which to construct a new African ideology of change.

For his part, Kwame Nkrumah in his book, Consciencism, defines this ideology as an amalgamation of African humanist and egalitarian principles, and socialism. The book offers no proof of the existence of these ideals in traditional African society. Nkrumah assumed that they occurred naturally in traditional society. And, of course, as many Ghanaians who suffered torture and imprisonment under Nkrumah would confirm, these ideals were absent in his rapacious and ruthless dictatorship.

As Nkrumah’s rule showed, the idea of “African democracy” that African intellectuals were trying to formulate had serious conceptual flaws. The intellectuals, just like Nkrumah, assumed that traditional societies were democratic and egalitarian by nature, and that, in these societies, everyone, including women and children, were treated equally.

They further assumed that because these democratic values existed naturally in Africa, they did not need any deliberate institutionalisation in the body politic of the newly independent nations.

The flaw in this thinking was twofold. First, as Edward Simiyu and others have established, pre-colonial societies were far from democratic. Second, even supposing they were, there was still need for a deliberate effort to institutionalise those traditional democratic values in the systems of the emerging nations.

The intellectuals had assigned themselves a curious task. They sought to formulate an ideology to guide the future progress of Africa by looking back. By contrast, the French revolutionaries who proposed the ideas of ‘liberty, equality and brotherhood’ looked to recreate new French society on the basis of new ideas of democracy and equality. 

And that is how African intellectual discourse missed the opportunity to influence democratic change on the continent. This task was left to civil society organisations and the church, which in the mid and late eighties began to agitate, not for restitution of a mythical African democracy, but for a new African society based on modern democratic ideas.

The contrasting visions of civil society and the intellectuals would be captured most graphically by two events in 2000. As civil society, the church and ordinary citizens were discussing the pros and cons of different constitutional and democratic models at national conventions, African intellectuals and writers gathered under a tree in Asmara in Eriteria and declared, in the misguided spirit of Walter Rodney, that “colonial and neo-colonial forces and their local allies” had underdeveloped African economies. And, not to forget their intellectual mission over the years, they declared that “decolonisation of the African mind should go hand in hand with decolonization of the economy and politics”.

ABSURD GESTURE

These declarations were emotive and simplistic, for they did not offer practical social programmes, economic and political proposals on how to achieve decolonisation of the mind, politics and economy.

More telling of the total disconnect of the intellectuals from practical reality, they sat under a tree to symbolise democracy in pre-colonial Africa, yet failed to denounce the vicious dictatorship in Eriteria. The act of sitting under a tree, just like their simple slogans, and Soyinka’s later Green Card threat, really emphasised the comical and tragic incongruity of their situation.

What were the costs of the missed opportunity to recreate new societies based on modern ideas of democracy and justice? What were the costs of governance experiments inspired by ideas of recreating new societies from old values? The answer is seen in the economic catastrophe in Africa and the years of political repression. It is seen in the litany of failed or failing states.

It is seen in recurring violence and continuing degradation of women through stone-age practices such as FGM. It is seen in the thousands of Africans risking death in the seas to escape the hopelessness in their countries. It is seen in the ‘cult of the Green Card,’ which I define as a maniacal ambition to live in America or Europe.

And so when I heard of Soyinka’s intended gesture, it was not defiance or triumph that I sensed. It was defeat. Here was a man who had dedicated his intellectual life to reclamation of an ‘African metaphysics’ now threatening to lash out with his Green Card. Nothing can be more absurd than a vision of Soyinka hurling shreds of his Green Card to the four winds and proclaiming victory.

It is a sad and futile act, symbolising the final defeat of Soyinka’s and his generation of intellectuals’ search for Eldorado, the mythical city of gold.

The 26 Best Sci-Fi Films of the Recent Decade

The 26 Best Sci-Fi Films of the Recent Decade

News Unknown   23:04

Sci- Fi   Films

It's a great time to be a science-fiction fan. Not only has special effects advanced to the point where robots and alien worlds have become life-like, but audiences seem to love the genre more than ever before. With  raising the bar even further this year, here are the absolute best sci-fi films of the recent decade.

An Afang soup prepared by best udo

An Afang soup prepared by best udo

LIFESTYLE Unknown   10:38

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Amber Rose shares untouched butt pic, blames paparazzi for taking bad pics of her

Amber Rose shares untouched butt pic, blames paparazzi for taking bad pics of her

LIFESTYLE Unknown   05:05

Yesterday, paparazzi released untouched photos of Amber Rose at the beach in Hawaii and in the photos you can see Amber's butt is not as smooth as she wants us to believe (see here) in photos she posts on instagram. Anyway, this morning Amber tried to defend herself (don't know why she would even bother) by sharing the raw untouched photo of this pic she shared two days ago (left is the raw version) claiming it wasn't Photoshopped and blamed paparazzi for taking bad angled unflattering pics of her.

When her followers called her out for lying that the pic was not Photoshopped, Amber quickly took down the post but not before I screen-grabbed it...hehe. See what she wrote after the cut

Man connives with kidnappers to sell his 15yr old female cousin to pimps in Libya

Man connives with kidnappers to sell his 15yr old female cousin to pimps in Libya

LIFESTYLE Unknown   07:46

https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhM8gZQGEn76irX___FdsVJaJo4AbmsfjAni7s6yUAMPmdVeA_rVd3xgMEGGqJIHUdqPdO2lz-vt8uB6Xm9L7o5gyxU5FhwHDYkBy9M92KaQydP0TadhEGbBsH2hWWBhWznnCEsvg9GRhby/s1600/unnamed.gifParents of  15 year-old girl Precious Nwaigwe, who was kidnapped in Lagos by some Niger-based kidnappers on Sunday May 25th last year have revealed how a relation of theirs connived with some the kidnappers to kidnap their daughter and sell her to some pimps in Libya.

Speaking with  Punch, Blessing Nwaigwe, Precious's mother said the police have arrested a relation of theirs who worked with the kidnappers...

 “The person that has just been arrested is one of our relatives. He is my cousin’s child and is currently with SARS. When we got his contact sometime in September last year from the kidnappers, we did not know he was the one because they gave us a different name. So, his family and our family had a meeting and he was invited to the meeting to resolve the issue. It was during the meeting that the police arrested him.
The suspect said the girl was no longer with him. He told the police investigators that after he was paid N250,000, he released the girl to another person who took her to Libya.”

Blessing, a student of the Ikenne Community College in Ikenne Ogun state had come to Lagos to spend the holidays with her father at his home in Ajah and was on her way back to school when she was kidnapped.

Her Father, Okoro Nwadile, while recounting how his daughter was kidnapped, said he placed her in a commercial bus that would take her to back to school and unknown to him, the bus was filled with kidnappers. He said days later, he got a call from the school, inquiring why she had not resumed. He said this was followed by a call from the kidnappers demanding for $100,000 ransom or they would make Sarah work for them so she can pay her ransom.

The case was reported at the Ajah Police Division from where it was transferred to the Anti-Robbery Squad in Ikeja. A police source who spoke on the recent developments in the case, confirmed that Blessing who was initially taken to Niger has been transferred to Libya.

“The girl is no more in the Niger Republic. She has been taken to Libya and the police have arrested one of those involved in the kidnap. The new suspect told us that the girl was no longer in his custody because she had been sold to some people suspected to be pimps in Libya.” the police source said

Kcee's Five Star Music Group releases dapper new photos..

Kcee's Five Star Music Group releases dapper new photos..

LIFESTYLE Unknown   07:38

Five Star Music Group artists and CEO which includes Kcee, Harrysong, Soso Soberekon and Kcee's millionaire brother, E-Money, recently released new photos of the group. More photos after the cut...

EGYPT JAILS EIGHT GAY MEN FOR THREE YEARS

EGYPT JAILS EIGHT GAY MEN FOR THREE YEARS

LIFESTYLE Unknown   08:07

Cairo - An Egyptian court jailed eight men for three years on Saturday over a video prosecutors claimed was of a gay wedding, which went viral on the Internet.
Homosexuality is not specifically banned under Egyptian law, so the men, arrested in September, were charged with "inciting debauchery and offending public morality."
The court also sentenced the eight to three years of probation once they have served their terms.
The video, filmed aboard a Nile riverboat, shows what prosecutors said was a gay wedding ceremony, with two men in the centre kissing, exchanging rings and cutting a cake with their picture on it.
The video went viral on social media websites such as Facebook, Twitter and YouTube.
One of the defendants, prior to their arrest, told a television talk show that the video was recorded during a birthday party.
At the last hearing, on 11 October, a spokesperson for the justice ministry's forensics department insisted the men were innocent.
"The medical test showed that the eight defendants have not practised homosexuality recently or in the past," Hesham Abdel Hamed told AFP.
"The entire case is made up and lacks basis. The police did not arrest them red-handed and the video does not prove anything."
He was referring to anal examinations, a long-standing practice in Egypt that New York-based Human Rights Watch has condemned.
HRW has demanded that the men be released.
In the past, Egyptian homosexuals have been jailed on charges ranging from "scorning religion" to "sexual practices contrary to Islam", the country's dominant religion.

Nigeria: My Position On NYSC's N4000 Charges

Nigeria: My Position On NYSC's N4000 Charges

LIFESTYLE Unknown   06:38

 online registration and delivery of call up letters directly to e-mail by National Youth Service Corps management. It should be noted that this new policy will prevent the intending corps members from unpleasant situation as a result of their hustling to get the call-up letter from respective institutions. Meanwhile, apart from the stress, it will also make it possible for corps member to reprint their call-up letters whenever and wherever they may be.LIFESTYLELagos — It will be wrong to totally condemn the introduction of the
However, it is very pertinent to plead with the management of NYSC to reduce the charges from initial amount to a more realistic, affordable amount taking the economy of the country into consideration and students that are self-sponsors. I hope the management of NYSC can shift ground a little and source for required fund from Federal Government to defray cost incurred in obtaining the technology for the system and ensure that the payment method is changed from ATM to NYSC scratch card. In conclusion, NYSC should see the effectiveness and efficiency of this new policy as a paramount issue.