THE INBORN REASONING OF A CHILD

Every child, weather  he comes to his family by birth or adoption, discover what a family is, through  the experiences of  family life . the new born infant has no  many way of knowing  which of the many  faces that hover  above him  belongs to a parent. He has no way of knowing what a parent is  he only  knows that  he is comfortable or uncomfortable,  hungry or satisfied

Gradually, as the month go by, he begins to know who brings comfort  when he is uncomfortable  and food when he is hungry. He  comes to know the feel of the  arm  that holds him close  when he eat  and holds him  safe in his bath. He grows to know  who responds to his needs when he cries out . this is a special person in the whole new world  who belongs specially  to him. This is his first recognition of  a parent. the mother and the father who cares for a child, who listen for his voice  and try to interpret what he means, who comfort him, feed him and play with him discover for the first time  what it is to be  parent  they do not become parent by virtue  of conception and birth alone. They grow to be parent just as the infant grow to  recognize  them as such. They come to know the developing of their child  in the way that no other person can really can. They recognize if he is a lusty eater or  a nibbler, vivacious or reserved, adventurous  or cautious . by observing  his intellectual  and physical  abilities, they also get to know what he may become in future. They are concerned in meeting  his needs and wants, and fostering his growth to maturity

Sometimes   because   of  their  responsibility  to their  child, parent have  to do unpleasant things. They have, for instance to take him for injections. He can have no choice  about taking  medicine when  he is ill. He must learn quickly, and not necessarily  at his  own pace , fire is not  a play thing. In the  intimacies  of daily living, the child  and the parent  learn the bitter  and the sweet  of the family relations. Its through the experience  of family  life that  a child  and his parent  grow to be a family. For every parent, biological or adoptive, it is  the daily  loving care  of the child and his responsiveness  that build up the parents feelings. For  every child, it is being  loved and being  cared that produce  family  closeness.